Black Moon Lilith: The Power You Were Told to Hide
“Untamed and unapologetic.”
There’s a part of you that doesn’t care what anyone thinks. She’s wild. She’s untamed. She’s got better things to do than be polite and sit with her knees together. And in Astrology, we call her Black Moon Lilith.
She’s not here to play a supporting role. She’s here to help you reclaim the parts of yourself you’ve been taught to tone down — your truth, your sensuality, your sovereignty. Black Moon Lilith speaks to the space in your Birth Chart where your soul wants to be fully seen… but might still be hiding in the shadows, desperate to rebel against societal norms.
Most people don’t know they have a Black Moon Lilith placement at all. But once you connect with her energy, you start to realise — she’s always been there. Whispering, stirring, guiding you back to yourself.
So let’s talk about her. Let’s stop pretending this part of you doesn’t exist. Because once you meet your Black Moon Lilith, there’s no going back.
What is Black Moon Lilith in a Birth Chart?
In Astrology, Black Moon Lilith isn’t a Planet or a celestial body — it’s a point in space. More specifically, it marks the Moon’s furthest point from Earth in its orbit, known as the lunar apogee.
Symbolically, this placement reveals the shadow side of your emotional world. It represents what has been repressed, rejected, misunderstood — or simply not allowed to exist in the light.
Depending on where Black Moon Lilith shows up in your Birth Chart, it might highlight:
Where you struggle to be fully seen or accepted
Your instinctive responses, particularly around power, sexuality, and boundaries
The parts of you that refuse to stay small, quiet, or controlled
Where you may have experienced shame or rejection for expressing your truth
Depending on which Sign and House she’s in, this can play out in different ways. Maybe you’re sexually magnetic but terrified of intimacy. Maybe you’re a creative genius but hide your work in case it’s “too much”. Maybe you’ve been punished for speaking your truth — and now you’re here, ready to stop apologising.
Are Lilith and Black Moon Lilith the same thing?
Not exactly. The name "Lilith" appears in a few different ways in Astrology, and while they’re all inspired by the same mythology, they each represent different aspects of her archetype.
While Black Moon Lilith is the most widely known, she isn’t the only one in the cosmic story.
Black Moon Lilith
Not a physical body, but a calculated point (the Moon’s apogee).
Symbolises our relationship to emotional suppression, personal sovereignty, and instinctive power.
Most Astrologers work with the Mean Black Moon Lilith, though some prefer the True Black Moon Lilith, which can feel a little more unpredictable — fitting for her energy. The difference in the calculation between these two is sometimes referred to as “The Lilith Corridor”, which can be explored as a highlighted area of your Birth Chart.
Asteroid Lilith
A physical asteroid found between Mars and Jupiter.
Often reflects themes of personal empowerment, especially in the face of societal or gender-based expectations.
Can highlight experiences with visibility, voice, and reclaiming your right to express yourself.
Dark Moon Lilith (aka Waldemath)
A more controversial and lesser-used point — sometimes called the “phantom Lilith.”
Associated with hidden fears, psychic sensitivity, and karmic patterns passed through generations or past lives.
Often used in more esoteric or psychological interpretations of the Birth Chart.
Together, these Liliths can form a kind of constellation of personal truth, power, and shadow work. Your Birth Chart might contain more than one active Lilith point, creating a fuller picture of how you meet the world — and yourself.
And then there’s Priapus — the point directly opposite Black Moon Lilith in a Birth Chart. It represents raw physical desire and instinctive drive, often linked with lust and embodiment — like the dark masculine yang to Black Moon Lilith’s more dark feminine yin. It’s part of the story, yes — but let’s be clear: Black Moon Lilith doesn’t need a masculine mirror to be whole. Her power stands on its own.
The myth of Lilith
To understand Black Moon Lilith, we need to go back — way back — to one of the most misunderstood figures in mythology: Lilith.
Lilith’s story varies depending on the source, but the version most Astrologers draw from originates in ancient Jewish texts. According to the Alphabet of Ben Sira (a medieval Jewish text), Lilith was Adam’s first wife — created from the same earth as he was. Equal. Independent. Not made from his rib, like Eve would later be.
But things didn’t go smoothly.
When Adam demanded she be “submissive” — especially in the bedroom — Lilith refused. She didn’t want to lie beneath him, in any sense of the word. She wanted equality, autonomy, and the right to choose how she expressed herself, including sexually.
So she left.
(Boy, bye!)
She spoke the forbidden name of God, took her power, and walked away from Eden. No compromise. No apology.
From there, the story turns darker. Because Lilith chose her own freedom, she was vilified. Demonised. Cast as a baby-snatching night creature who seduced men and brought chaos. Religious texts erased her, feared her, and twisted her into a cautionary tale.
She became a symbol of everything patriarchal systems didn’t want women to be: untameable, powerful, and self-possessed.
And that’s exactly why Black Moon Lilith is named after her.
Lilith was the first woman to say “No.” And she paid the price. But in that refusal, she became a symbol of radical self-respect. A reminder that your power isn’t something to be punished — it’s something to protect, nurture, and reclaim.
Does everyone have a Black Moon Lilith placement?
Yes — everyone has Black Moon Lilith placement in their Birth Chart. Whether you’re consciously working with her energy or not, she’s there — quietly influencing how you navigate desire, anger, independence, and power.
Some people meet their Black Moon Lilith early in life, especially if they’ve faced rejection, shame, or control around their voice, body, or emotions. Others connect with her during periods of transformation — often when life pushes you to reclaim a part of yourself you’ve been suppressing.
The more aware you are of where she lives in your Birth Chart, the more empowered you become to integrate her fully — and to stop letting shame call the shots.
What is the energy of Black Moon Lilith?
The energy of Black Moon Lilith is deep, intuitive, and fiercely sovereign. She’s not about pleasing others or playing by the rules. She’s about reclaiming what was always yours: your voice, your choices, your wildness, your wholeness.
Black Moon Lilith asks: Where are you holding back? Where have you abandoned parts of yourself to fit in? And what would it look like to stop performing and start honouring the raw truth of who you are?
She brings intensity, yes — but also clarity. The more you explore her energy, the more you begin to recognise when you’re compromising your truth, and when you’re ready to take it back.
This is where the healing begins — not by softening, but by standing tall in your power.
How do you heal Black Moon Lilith?
Black Moon Lilith doesn’t just reveal where you’ve experienced pain and shame — she shows you the path to healing through self-awareness, self-trust, and defiance of everything that told you to play small.
The healing begins when you stop hiding her away. When you no longer adjust your edges to make others feel more comfortable. When you meet that raw, instinctive part of yourself and say: “I’m listening now.”
Working with Black Moon Lilith isn’t always gentle or polished. It can be confronting. It can be scary. But it’s also empowering. It invites you to be fully honest with yourself — even when it’s messy. This is the definition of shadow work.
Through her, you can begin to:
Speak your truth, even if it feels shaky at first
Honour your boundaries without guilt
Embrace your pleasure and desires without shame
Feel your anger and frustration without making yourself feel wrong for it
The power of Black Moon Lilith lies in learning to hold all parts of yourself with compassion, including the ones society told you to hide. That’s where the strength is. That’s where the healing lives.
Exploring your personal Black Moon Lilith placement with an Astrologer is the best way to start in the healing process — then, together, you can work on the next best methods for you. Meditation, journalling, connecting with nature, therapy, indulging in things that fire up your senses (music, intense exercise, creativity, dancing, singing) — all of these things and more can help connect you with your Black Moon Lilith.
Understanding your Black Moon Lilith placement
Your Black Moon Lilith placement offers a deeply personal window into the parts of yourself that are instinctive, complex, and sometimes challenging to express.
It shows:
Where your intuition is strongest, but also most vulnerable
What makes you feel exposed — and what makes you feel powerful
The boundaries you’re learning to set, and the ones you’re still navigating
The beliefs you’re here to unlearn, especially if they’ve been holding you back
This isn’t just about sexuality, rebellion, or chaos for the sake of chaos — it’s about ownership of self. Your Sign and House placement tell you where this energy plays out in your life.
For example:
Black Moon Lilith in Aries: May resist being told what to do, this placement is learning to lead without bullying.
Black Moon Lilith in Taurus: May be repressed in a more physical sense, this placement is learning to indulge their senses, without judgement.
Black Moon Lilith in Gemini: May feel guilty of their curiosity, this placement is learning that it’s okay to be inquisitive about life.
Black Moon Lilith in Cancer: May confront generational patterns around nurturing, this placement is learning to embrace their sensitivity.
Black Moon Lilith in Leo: May feel shame for being ‘dramatic’, this placement is learning that they can stand up and be seen.
Black Moon Lilith in Virgo: May feel mocked for their ‘perfectionism’, this placement is learning that there’s strength in their attention to detail.
Black Moon Lilith in Libra: May feel belittled for valuing beauty, this placement is learning that their aesthetic appreciation is a gift.
Black Moon Lilith in Scorpio: May resist their fascination with the taboo, this placement is learning that the ‘darkness’ isn’t shameful.
Black Moon Lilith in Sagittarius: May feel guilty for seeking adventure, this placement is learning that life is to be experienced.
Black Moon Lilith in Capricorn: May feel shamed for their ambition, this placement is learning that their achievements can be celebrated.
Black Moon Lilith in Aquarius: May suppress their natural eccentricity, this placement is learning to love their quirkiness.
Black Moon Lilith in Pisces: May feel as though they can never fit in, this placement is learning that there is space for them.
Then there’s Black Moon Lilith through the Houses, which reveals where in your life this energy shows up most: in your work, your relationships, your inner world, your public self, etc. It’s less about being “too much” and more about learning where you’ve outgrown being too little.
What happens during a Black Moon Lilith Return?
Every 8 to 9 years, Black Moon Lilith returns to the position she held at the time of your birth. These cycles are often times of deep reflection — and sometimes, even deeper reckoning.
Think about your life around the ages of 9, 18, 27, 36, and so on. These moments often come with shifts around identity, autonomy, and emotional boundaries.
A Black Moon Lilith Return asks:
Are you still holding back in order to fit in?
Are you giving yourself full permission to be who you are, even the parts of you that you’re not comfortable with?
What would change if you trusted your instincts and honoured your boundaries?
These Returns aren’t always comfortable, but they do bring clarity. They offer an opportunity to grow into a fuller version of yourself — and to finally release what’s no longer true for you.
Ready to meet your Black Moon Lilith?
Black Moon Lilith isn’t here to play nice. She’s not about blending in, biting your tongue, or making yourself smaller so someone else can feel big. She’s the part of you that knows your worth, even when the world tries to tell you otherwise.
She’s rage and pleasure and truth and power. She’s the scream in your throat and the fire in your belly. She’s not chaos for the sake of it — she’s liberation.
So, if something inside you has always felt a little unruly — a little too much, too loud, too unapologetic — congratulations. You’ve already met her.
Now it’s time to get to know her properly.
🌒 Book an Astrology Consultation to find out exactly where Black Moon Lilith sits in your Birth Chart — and what she’s here to awaken in you. Your Lilith story is waiting to be told. Let’s tell it together.